tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544984.post1963995734663458190..comments2024-03-08T03:24:19.823-05:00Comments on Where The Hell Am I?: Repost: Glamour wants to know if you have friends of other racesReginahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09024832959937205245noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544984.post-37256835962108912852008-09-15T23:37:00.000-04:002008-09-15T23:37:00.000-04:00I completely agree that racial humor should stay i...I completely agree that racial humor should stay in the hands of pros (or those who are amazingly good communicators).Reginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09024832959937205245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544984.post-48994764810552429372008-09-15T23:00:00.000-04:002008-09-15T23:00:00.000-04:00I've had my fair share of clashes with quite a few...I've had my fair share of clashes with quite a few of white teachers/exchange students too. A few months ago I replied on one of your previous posts(under another name since I didn't have a blog yet) about one white colleague who was going over the line not only verbally but physically. <BR/><BR/>I have encountered my fair share of people who wanted an "English Tool Friend." I even had the misfortune of staying with a homestay family who just wanted me for English practice! Not only did I not get to speak Japanese, but they barely fed me as well. Ever since that homestay experience, I have tended to stray away from people who are like that.<BR/><BR/>What I find annoying is when people tap into a stereotype that they know is a stereotype just for the point of trying to be funny. I think that is the case for my friends who "vent." I know quite a few people who have friends that are also like this. They need to leave that kind of humor to stand-up comedians, SNL, and MADTV because it is POORLY executed.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544984.post-11804207445657526252008-09-15T17:05:00.000-04:002008-09-15T17:05:00.000-04:00You're probably better than me in some respects, m...You're probably better than me in some respects, meaning most of my non-black friends are friends I made back home in the States. I actually have more of a problem than not with a lot of the white teachers I've met here in Korea (usually culturally intolerant, having a lofty sense of entitlement and leaning more towards racist than not.) Only when I started grad school here in Seoul did I open myself up to Korean friends. <BR/><BR/>That's not to say that I was above being friends with Koreans before. My situation and locations meant I was meeting Koreans who only wanted to be "friends" for the purpose of learning English, so I always felt like I was being used. School brings in a completely different dynamic and that made me more comfortable.<BR/><BR/>However, people of other races telling me how much they don't "like" black people would set me on edge a bit. I don't get it much probably because I get the feeling I'm a bit older than you, as are most of my friends. <BR/><BR/>Like all races, we've got the good and the bad. The problem is media and our society, which sends its images and beliefs worldwide, tends to show blacks at our worst more often than we're shown at our best. I stress that I'm no exception. I know tons of great, friendly, nice, accomplished, educated, intelligent, well-spoken, law abiding, etc. black men and women who are great people. I'm not the only black American at this point in history whose life runs counter to those negative stereotypes and who has had the chance to go to college or university. So I point out that they're tapping into a stereotype. Why not discuss all the bad people because blacks don't have a higher percentage. What we have is more blacks facing the negative results and challenges that racism brings to their lives.Reginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09024832959937205245noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30544984.post-47388957785088362182008-09-15T10:54:00.000-04:002008-09-15T10:54:00.000-04:00I have 4 friends that I consider good friends. 2 J...I have 4 friends that I consider good friends. 2 Japanese, 1 black, and one white. I'm black.<BR/><BR/><BR/>When I was studying abroad in Japan for a year, I made quite a few Japanese friends. I became good friends with two of them. One of my friends told me some things troubling her that she wouldn't even tell her parents or other Japanese friends. She felt that since I wasn't Japanese, that I could bring a different perspective to her issues. I also have another Japanese friend who I consider one of my best friends. We hanged out almost everyday. <BR/><BR/>One challenge I've had(well with one friend) is that they feel that it's okay for them to vent about how bad some black people can be because I'm "not like them" so it's okay to do that. That can be kind of annoying. Maybe with my friends whose first language isn't English...there can be a slight language barrier at times. Other than that, I cannot think of anything that is a big challenge. <BR/><BR/>As for the rewards...lol this pertains specifically to Japan. I know when I went back to Japan last summer, I didn't have to pay a dime for accommodation and then some. Maybe that's more monetary than personal hahaha. I guess another benefit that having an interracial friendship is an exchange in language in culture. I at least know that my Japanese improved a lot along with my understandings of Japanese culture due to my Japanese friends. I'm in Korea now and I can say the same is happening with my Korean friends.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com